What+can+be+done+to+prevent+conflicts

=What can be done to prevent conflict?=

No one likes being in conflicts, but then no one likes forgiving either since they don’t want to “lose” the argument. What’s wrong with forgiving though? Some people get in conflicts very often because they either like bothering with other people or because; basically they don’t like forgiving. But then later on if the person forgives absolutely no one at all, he/she will soon build enemies and the issue could lead into a war, and maybe even death. See how a tiny little issue could grow into a way bigger one? To some of you, this might not seem so serious because you haven’t seen it occur yet with your own eyes, but if you don’t forgive and act soon, you will. All the wars that have happened in the past and are happening now are happening because of misunderstandings, disagreements, and most of all people won’t forgive. They always feel that forgiving is giving in and losing. But here I ask you one question: would you rather “win” a conflict and lose a friend or forgive and still have a friend? Well I don’t know about you but I’d rather forgive and still have a friend.
 * __The Power of Forgiveness...__**

Imagine what would happen if you forgave. Wouldn't you feel good about yourself because you forgave someone? For example, I found this comment on a website and it made me feel sorry for the person who wrote the comment. He said, " I am trying to figure out how to forgive myself, for the acts of violence I commited during combat for my nation.I am struggling daily with the knowledge, images, and memorials i have in my head.I have killed so many, how do I heal inside? When will the sadness end?" He couldn't forgive himself because he killed so many people in the war when he was fighting for his country. If he was going to feel guilty now, why did he even go fight in the first place and regret it?

Like I said, a small problem might not seem that serious in the beginning, but then later on it could grow into a bigger problem and cause death. There was clearly an example of this in the case of [|The Jena Six]. This was about a tree in a school where only white skinned people would go sit under the tree. One day a dark skinned person went and sat under that tree and the next day three nooses appeared on the tree. It was apparently hung by three white students, and from that day on, fights started between black and white students. The biggest issue then happened when a white student got beaten up by six black students and almost died. From this example, because of racism it caused all of this trouble but instead if the white skinned people forgave the dark skinned person who sat under the tree, none of this would have happened. There are really a lot of ways to avoid conflict, and most of them are pretty easy. If you find yourself making a lot of friends and are in good conditions with them, then you’re doing fine because you probably won’t find yourself getting into any conflicts. Also be nice and friendly to each other, don’t discriminate or treat others differently. If someone mistreats you but apologizes, forgive them. Yes it is hard to forgive sometimes because of the thing that they did wrong, but if they realize later that they were wrong and apologize, forgive because it takes a lot of courage to apologize too. Remember to think before you act too, because most of the time a lot of people just blurt something out without thinking and regret it because then someone might get mad at their comment and not everyone has the courage to forgive, so give them time. Sometimes you have only one chance to do a certain thing, so you might as well take it and not have any regrets. Remember, the key is to forgive.

//I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note - torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.// ~Henry Ward Beecher

//The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.// ~Mahatma Gandhi

//Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.// ~Harriet Nelson

http://www.quotegarden.com/forgiveness.html http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080123124756AA81PqQ&show=7 http://www.democracynow.org/2007/7/10/the_case_of_the_jena_six
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By: Ya Chun